Platonic Friendship Questionnaire

Many of us may want to be better friends but don’t know how. This questionnaire is here to help! It will guide you through assessing your strengths and weaknesses as a friend. At the end of the survey, you can read some advice on how to increase your skills at making friends based on your scores.

Please rate the degree to which each statement applies to you using the ranking system below:

1 (Not At All) <
> 7(Very Much So)

    1. If I meet someone I’d like to befriend, I follow up and ask them to hang out.

    2. My friends know I value them.

    3. I’m comfortable talking about what’s really going on with my friends.

    4. I try not to impose my views on friends.

    5. I try to value my friends for who they really are.

    6. I’m comfortable putting myself out there to meet people.

    7. I show up when my friends need me.

    8. I check in with my friends when I know they’re going through something.

    9. I try to see things from my friend’s perspective.

    10. I have no trouble reaching out to friends to find some time to hang out.

    11. When something major is going on in my life, my closest friends know.

    12. I make sure to share my internal world with my friends.

    13. My friends consider me a reliable person that they can turn to when they need support.

    14. When it comes to making friends, I don’t wait for people to come to me.

    15. I often express praise for my friends.

    16. I’m comfortable reaching out to a friend when I need someone to talk to.

    17. It is important to me to show up for my friends when they’re going through something.

    18. I don’t try to change my friends.

    19. My friends would describe me as encouraging.

    20. I rarely put down my friends.





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